Adult attention deficit disorder is a real problem, and many adults suffer from it. Unfortunately, things become too complicated when one or both adults in a relationship have this health condition. However, things can be made easy if a person finds the right tools and strategies to enhance communication with their partner and works hard to ensure a happier relationship. If you also want to know how to work with ADHD in a relationship, then read on.
Know
Everything About ADHD
The first
step to making a relationship work is to learn everything about ADHD. You
should know about all the symptoms that will probably impact the relationship.
Some of the symptoms are:
· The inability of a person to pay
attention to details.
· The inability of a person to follow
directions properly.
· A person’s inability to remember
information.
· A person’s inability to organize
tasks without a struggle.
· The inability of a person to
complete the work on time.
· A person’s intense focus is on
things of interest like video games.
· A person’s forgetful behavior.
· The inability of a person to plan
properly.
· Explosive temper of a person.
· A person’s inability to stand still.
· A person can get stressed, talk a lot,
or get bored easily.
Which
ADHD Symptoms Interfere with Relationships?
Though the
symptoms vary from person to person, here are a few examples of a few ADHD
symptoms that might interfere with relationships
· Forgetfulness- It might make you
feel that a person with ADHD is not reliable.
· Inattention- It might make you feel
that a person with ADHD doesn’t value you.
· Impulsive Behavior- It might make
you feel that a person with ADHD speaks carelessly or doesn’t care about how
you feel.
· Disorganization- It might lead to
chaos in your household, and you might feel you are cleaning up after a person
with ADHD.
· Explosive Temper- No matter whether
you are in a relationship with a person with ADHD or not, you should know that
angry outbursts often make you fearful or hurt.
How to
Make the Relationship with an ADHD Person Work?
If you are
in a relationship with a person with ADHD, here are a few tips that might help.
· You need to stop feeling like you
are responsible for everything that needs to be done for a person with ADHD. It
can lead to frustration or anger.
· You need to stop micromanaging a
person with ADHD.
· It would be smart to work on your
communication skills and ensure that you restore balance in your relationship.
· When communicating, use terms like
“I feel” so that you can focus on feelings and avoid the stupid blame games.
· Use verbal and non-verbal cues and
communicate face to face as much as possible
· Repeat what a person with ADHD is
saying to ensure you hear it right.
· Confirm whether a person with ADHD
needs help before jumping in to do their tasks.
· Talk about how some symptoms impact
your relationships—for instance- the impact of explosive anger.
· When listening, maintain eye contact
with your partner.
· Divide the tasks based on each person’s
strengths.
· Delegate tasks if you have too much
on your plate.
· Make a routine that works for both
of you and stick to it.
· Relook at your workloads often to
ensure none of you feels overwhelmed.
· Seek therapy or expert advice if you
need help!
Read more
about ADHD at Centre for ADHD Awareness, Canada.
Still need
more? Read the 7 ADHD Stress-Reduction Techniques here.
-by Shruti , CNS Canadian News Source
Source:
https://www.psycom.net/adhd-and-relationships/